September 11th: anniversaries and loss

I joined in April 2002 as a part-time content screener. My job was to review Guest Book entries for appropriate content prior to posting them online. One month after I started, I reviewed an entry from a husband who lost his 25 year old wife, Patricia Massari, on September 11th. It was his first entry in her Guest Book, and he submitted it the night before their 3rd wedding anniversary. He shared stories of the day they got engaged, their wedding day, their honeymoon in Hawaii, weekend getaways they shared, and the day they learned she was pregnant:

We got up together on September 11th and took the test and what you thought was true was you were going to be a Mommy for the first time and you cried because you were so scared to be a Mom but I told you Hun it will be all right because we are a team and we will be all right. So you got yourself together and I helped get you ready for work and you told me you’d call later on.

She called her husband at 8:40 a.m. to tell him she had picked up a second test on her way to work just so she could be absolutely sure she was pregnant. While they were talking, she suddenly screamed and the phone cut off. Her office was on the 98th floor of the World Trade Center.

I still think about this couple regularly, and how completely nonsensical the loss was. Though I know it will make me cry, I re-read his entry every year as the anniversary of the September 11th attacks approaches. And as heartbreaking as it is to read and think about, I know my pain and sadness doesn’t come close to the depth of his.

You can read his full entry here.

The “Remembering 9/11” site includes obituaries, profiles, Guest Books, Moving Tributes and a National Book of Remembrance. To date, more than 5 million people have visited the site, leaving more than 180,000 Guest Book entries.

About Katie

I joined in 2002 as a part-time content screener and now serve as Director of Operations, overseeing Legacy’s day-to-day operations (Guest Book screening, obituary processing, customer service, and client service). I grew up in California, the daughter of a psychologist and a minister. My parents instilled in me the importance of listening to and caring about others. One of the things I appreciate most about working at is that I am able to have a small part in easing people's pain during one of the most difficult times in their lives. In my life outside of Legacy, I enjoy baking treats (and bringing them to the office to share), playing the piano, reading, taking pictures, tending to our vegetable & herb gardens, trying out new restaurants and foods, spending time with my husband, Chuck (whom I met at Legacy) and our kids, Brett Jr. & Josie.
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